We often lament about, the one that got away. So now wonder articles about how to get your ex back are so popular. Here is another guest post.
Winning Your Ex Back – Top 3 Mistakes
A lot people do pretty well when it comes to getting into relationships or attracting the opposite sex, but when it comes to getting broken up with by someone you really love and care about, most people have no idea what to do. There are so many things that sound good, look good in the movies, or friends tell you to do, but about 99% of those things are mistakes that push your ex further and further away from. So I’ve compiled a list of the top 3 mistakes when you are trying to get back with your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend and here they are!
1. Calling and Texting Your Ex
Right after a break up a lot of emotions are flowing. Your ex just broke up with you, which means they are very happy with you right now. So when you start texting and calling them, and especially if they aren’t answering, you are just pushing them further and further and further away; I mean try to picture it from their side. It’d be like a naggy aunt who you’ve asked to stop calling you but for some reason they just won’t give up. Do you really think on the 7th text or
phone call they will actually answer and say “Yes, I want to be with you!” It just isn’t going to happen. So lay off the texts and calls for a little bit. Give them what is called SPACE.
2. Trying to Beg and Reason With Your Ex
Emotions don’t make sense, they just don’t. Your ex went through a lot of emotional thinking before they broke up with you so trying to beg and reason with your ex on why you both should still be dating just doesn’t work. Let’s talk about the begging first; it makes you look pretty sad. Yes, I understand you may really love and care about this person but when you are on your knees begging for them back, you just don’t look good. They know they have all the control and you look like a very weak and unattractive person to be dating. Then there’s the second part to this, reasoning. Like I said before, it’s not easy to reason with emotions. You got to let things settle down first. If you’re trying to talk and reason with your ex right after a break up they are not going to be having it. They already made up their minds and anything you say is really not going to change it at this point in time. So begging and reasoning are out of the question.
3. Trying to Buy Your Ex Back
This is the biggest mistake I see happen all the time, trying to buy your ex back. I remember the first time a girl broke up with me and I asked my Dad for some advice on how to get her back. He told me to go out and buy her some flowers, some nice red roses. It seemed like a pretty good idea at the time, I mean that’s what they do in the movies and it works… oh how wrong he was; I never did get that girl back. You see you can’t just buy your ex back, it doesn’t work.
Your ex didn’t date you because you bought them gifts (well maybe they did if you live in southern California). So by buying them a gift like flowers, do you think they will magically just change their mind and think about re-establishing a relationship with you? No, no way. It doesn’t work like this. There is so much psychology and emotions involved with relationships and break-ups; it’s a lot more than any of these 3 mistakes will be able to fix.
I hope you’ve learned a few things from these break up mistakes. If you need more help and want to learn advice that actually works when it comes to getting your ex back, just go here to how to get your ex back to learn everything you need to know from relationship guru Zac Miller, good luck!
Zac Miller is a relationship expert who has been helping out men and women for many years. He has authored many books on relationship advice which deal with attracting the opposite sex, messaging and talking with the opposite sex, and getting your ex partner back. He has his undergraduate degree in psychology from NC State University. Zac likes being outdoors, enjoys chess, wakeboarding, and golf, and studies psychology often.
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